There is a saying in Buddhism: "Compassion is more harmful, and it is convenient to get out of the filth".In modern times, due to the prevalence of humanistic Buddhism and the formation of the global village, many monks have moved from the mountains and forests to the city in order to facilitate the reception of believers.Although it is said that everything is one and two sides, through the development of society, monks and monks who are outsiders can also use various conveniences to save sentient beings. Negative effects are inevitable.For example, the respect of today's people for the Three Jewels is not as good as before. What is the main reason?That is, the distance between monks and laymen is too close, and it is too convenient to get along with each other. Too convenient is casual rather than skillful, so the negative effects also follow. We need to think about it together.

Why is the distance between monks and laymen too close to have a negative impact and not just a positive one?Don't the three treasures have the strength to stand the test?Of course not, but because the mind of ordinary people is full of the three poisons and afflictions. Before being edified and transformed by the Buddhadharma, no matter what kind of person is in front of him, the realm he sees must never be pure. The negative image that appears in his heart, even if a perfect person is in front of him, because he has a layer of colored three-poison glasses in his heart, of course, how he looks from the outside is colored, and because of the precepts of monks and the The completely different way of life cannot be understood, and it is inevitable that the Three Jewels will be misunderstood from the perspective of the world.On the other hand, even if the monks are saints who have attained Arahantship, they still have unfinished habits. That is to say, although all the afflictions of greed, hatred, and ignorance have been eliminated in their hearts, the residual habits of the three poisons still exist, that is, some The natural reflex actions of greed, hatred, ignorance, slowness and doubt, these habits still have to take three asamkhya kalpas to gradually break away and become a Buddha. At this time, if you get too close and see that these are not as good as your ideal sage standards, It must be mistaken to think that they are no different from ordinary people, and their respect will naturally be greatly reduced. Moreover, it is not easy for you to meet people who have achieved fruition in the Dharma-ending period, because most of them are hidden and invisible. So it is always easy to view monks with negative thoughts, which is not a good thing for the achievement of both monks and laymen.

So how do monks and laymen manage to get along with each other?Are you going to stop getting along?That's not true. If all monks are extremely humble and think that they must become enlightened and attain fruition before they can save sentient beings, then I am afraid that all sentient beings will not hear the Dharma, and in the process of cultivating the Tao, their performance is not real Mahayana practitioners who have aroused bodhicitta, so of course, they must do their best according to fate. As long as they don’t deliberately brag about themselves, if they have a bit of ability and karma, they can also do a bit of altruistic affairs. Like the old mother in Chengdong, who did not have a good relationship with the Buddha in previous lives, and finally got it. It was only through the Buddha's disciple Shariputra that she was able to save her, so that she could cultivate both blessings and wisdom, and learn from each other at the same time.Only in the method must be reasonable, in order to ensure the achievement of self-interest and altruism.And the lay family must always protect their respect for the Three Jewels, so as not to cause obstacles to the achievement of their own karma.

Now there are many monks who are so-called in the world to practice Taoism. In order to attract believers to support or study the Fa, they follow the habits and faults of their family members everywhere. On the contrary, because they missed the best opportunity for enlightenment when they first arrived, they also misled many sentient beings in their knowledge, opinions and attitudes, letting lay people think that they are brothers and sisters with monks, and even getting along with worldly people is normal and true. In line with the correct mode of modernization, it is cordial to call monks the name of the Dharma, go to the monastery as if returning home, and return to each other with respect. Over time, some frictions and misunderstandings will inevitably arise, which will make believers lose their due respect for the Three Jewels. In the end, they will completely retreat and never have the opportunity to truly know the Three Jewels. It is better to stick to the standard of precepts to get along with Although it may take more effort and time, on the one hand, you can learn all kinds of skills from the method of receiving and citing, and on the other hand, you can avoid all kinds of sequelae, which is absolutely correct in the long run. Not to mention the assumption of causal responsibility, the gains and losses in this must be taken seriously.

As for the so-called standard of getting along according to the precepts, the Buddha has talked about a lot in the precepts and scriptures, and even the relationship between monks and monks in Buddhism has strict rules. This is to help everyone to achieve some necessary things in Taoism. Pre-work.The role of monks is to abbot the Dharma and to educate sentient beings, while the disciples at home are to protect and study the Dharma. Therefore, in getting along, they should only focus on teaching the Dharma, and should not involve too many personal issues. Therefore, the precepts of monks stipulate that monks are not allowed to be monks. Talk about mundane things.Some lay people always like to regard monks as psychiatrists or friends.After getting along for a long time like this, because oneself cannot really change the destiny, in the end, they will lose confidence in the function of the Three Jewels. On the contrary, the monks and laymen have formed a deep human relationship, which either evolves into attachment or complains, and right and wrong are inevitable. It will continue to occur, which is actually a kind of harm to both parties.Some monks, out of compassion, also mistakenly believe that they should follow sentient beings first, and then randomly guide them skillfully, but the final development is usually that karma is greater than mana, and they are led by the habits of the lay family. It is difficult to see positive results. Therefore, it will gradually turn into an upside-down situation in which the lay family dominates the monks. This is indeed a phenomenon that is not difficult to see in the current religious circles.

As far as my own practical experience of teaching classes on Facebook, since the class started for more than four years (in XNUMX), because the class rules have long been clarified, there has never been too much personal communication between me, students and fellow practitioners. , especially between men and women. For fellow practitioners at home, I also ask everyone to maintain a polite distance to prevent all kinds of ridicule and right and wrong.There was a male practitioner in our class who came to the class for ten months. He never had a personal conversation with me on the message. He just followed the teaching progress of the class honestly, and as a result, the whole person could change completely. , I have completely changed some bad habits of smoking, drinking, etc. before studying in the future, so that even my wife can't believe that her husband is transformed into another person. At the beginning, I was a little worried. .Over the years, there has never been a quarrel between other practitioners in the class. Everyone can feel that our class is a rare group in Buddhism that can truly have a six-harmonious atmosphere. This is because everyone's way of getting along is purely established. Mutual achievement in the Dharma does not involve personal affairs at all. This is the function of keeping the precepts, and naturally many obstacles to practice can be avoided invisibly.Even though we don't talk about private affairs, we are not strangers. After studying together for a long time, the pure and true Taoism will still grow naturally. Therefore, if there are legitimate affairs between fellow practitioners and need help, everyone will also Naturally, they will try their best to help and care for each other, and they will not feel lonely in their hearts.Unlike in some groups, even if there are more than XNUMX people who live together in a way of learning together invisibly isolated from each other, they still feel lonely inside.

Our religious law sect great virtue^上fruit^underThe abbots of the Qing lawyers are the monks. When they receive the visiting believers, the resident masters will not chat or have any other interactions except for group teachings and lectures on the Dharma to the believers. Once you get the real benefits of the law, you will naturally respectfully support and follow the teachings. This also sets a good example for us.Monks and laymen, monks and laymen have a completely different way of life. They should not be so vulgar that they lose the fundamental principles because they want to be steadfast to all living beings. In this way, even if they are well-intentioned in the end, they will harm themselves and others, and even affect the whole of the Three Jewels. Image, this sin is difficult to remedy, and the monks who lead the congregation must act cautiously!