Looking at the relationship between people in the world from the eyes of the Buddha with perfect wisdom and virtue, it is very different from ordinary living beings who are still confused.As a monk following the Buddha's ordination practice, of course, the vision of the world is completely different from that of the world.If you can understand this difference, you will be able to understand to some extent the difference in interpersonal relationships between monks and lay people.Generally, some atheists will misunderstand the behavior of monks to abandon their family and friends as a form of ruthlessness and self-interest. Those who are responsible, all because they fail to understand the point of view of the monks on the world.

The Buddha told us that the reason why people in the world gather together is all because of the karma formed in the past life.If you have a good relationship in a previous life, the people around you will come to repay your kindness; if you have a bad relationship, you will be an enemy who comes to repay your grievances.If you owed someone else's debt in the past life, someone will come to you to collect the debt in this life. If you have done all kinds of almsgiving and given to others, someone will naturally come to pay you the debt.So if you understand the three-life cause and effect in Buddhism, you will naturally be able to cultivate the cause honestly, and you will not be worried that your good intentions will not be rewarded, and you will not dare to get away with doing evil things by luck. The karma between parents and children in the world also does not have these four karma, all of which are based on karma to repay the karma of past lives.From the point of view of the world, especially the Confucianism of Chinese culture, the kindness of parents to their children is greater than that of heaven. Therefore, it is only natural for parents to travel far and filial to their parents until they are old, and even the physical development of their children. parents, not to be hurt.When you become a monk, you have to shave your beard and hair, and you have to leave your parents to become a Buddhist son and live in a sangha. In appearance, you have to give up your love and leave your family, and completely cut off your worldly relationship with your parents and brothers. It seems to people in the world that it is indeed contrary to human ethics and morality, so many people who do not believe in Buddhism are very opposed to such things as monks and nuns.

In fact these are all misunderstandings.To become a monk is to practice great filial piety, which is not at all contrary to the filial piety in the world.To further expand, the Buddhadharma does not contradict all the worldly laws at all, and it just helps all people and things to further improve their realms on the basis of the worldly laws.If we understand this truth, our heart will be able to expand from the small size of sesame and mung beans to the infinitely vast Dharma Realm, like a frog jumping out of a well and roaming freely on the ocean.Why do you say that going home is a great act of filial piety?Because monks leave the secular home, they do not really want to abandon their parents forever, but just like a child who goes abroad to study, but only temporarily leaves their parents, so why do people in the world even stay for a long time for their children who go abroad for further study? People who have started a family abroad will not feel that it is unfilial. On the contrary, they will encourage them to praise them.The purpose of renunciation and cultivation is only to cultivate and become enlightened with one heart. After you have attained true blessings and wisdom, you will go back to save your parents and relatives, and even save your parents and parents who are countless and boundless. It is not superficial. Is it to abandon parents and be an unfilial person, didn't Shakyamuni Buddha show us alive?After he accomplished Taoism, not only did he turn around to save all his relatives and friends, but when his father died, he personally carried the coffin for his father as a Buddha. This kind of filial piety has been completely fulfilled. These are the facts that the world does not understand. .

The Buddha said very clearly in the Brahma Net Sutra, "All men are my fathers, all women are my mothers, and I will be born from it in my life." Therefore, speaking out and practicing is not only a thorough practice of filial piety, but also a thorough practice of filial piety. Do great filial piety.It is not easy to make a vow to become a monk. It is even more difficult than to become a president. To become a monk, you must first reluctantly give up your love and leave your family, and then work hard to get rid of the world's five desires and enjoyment. The afflictions and habit of fighting, this kind of mind and action is not something ordinary people can do. The so-called "renunciation is a man's job, not the ability of generals, princes and princes. It must be difficult to do and can, unbearable and unbearable", and all these The fundamental motive of his actions is to make a vow to save all the parents in life after life. Such great filial piety and great vows are enough to move the spirits and spirits of heaven and earth to protect them. How can they be unfilial people?Therefore, according to the scriptures, even monks who accidentally break the precepts are still worthy of offerings from people and heaven.It is precisely because the merits and virtues of practicing monkhood that can benefit sentient beings are so great that there is no way to describe them, and of course the benefits of all industries in the world cannot be compared. Without being moved by this kind of splendor and solemnity, how could anyone have the heart to hinder someone from becoming a monk?It is also said in the scriptures: "One son becomes a monk, and the nine clans ascend to heaven." As long as there is one person in the family to become a monk, all the relatives in the nine clans, so many relatives, do not need to cultivate by themselves, and only rely on this person in the family. You can at least ascend to heaven to enjoy the blessings in the next life, not to mention that you can also protect and support others who are renunciation and cultivation. What a blessing you will feel in the next life!After comparing the two, I can see that this is the return of the little sesame and mung beans that ordinary children in the world can do.

As for "the body is hairy and the skin is affected, the parents will not dare to damage it".Being a monk and shaving your hair and beard has nothing to do with hurting yourself.Everyone knows that hair can grow back after shaved, without hurting itself at all.When monks shave their beards and hairs, it has the meaning of showing the law, showing that shaving troubles and showing clean hair.What people in this world call the three thousand vexation threads is nothing more than to avoid some attachments in appearance and troubles in cleaning. It doesn't help much if you keep it, let alone hurt yourself if you lose it.I have been a monk for nearly XNUMX years, and I have always been very satisfied with this clean look, and it has saved me a lot of trouble. It is indeed much better than the long, flowing and charming hair when I was a layman in the past.

From a deeper perspective, the Buddha, who has achieved perfect blessings and wisdom and saw the truth, tells us that everything in this world is an illusion, is the same entity, and is only a temporary existence. Parents, as well as all people and things, are nothing but an illusion formed by the temporary combination of the four elements of earth, water, fire, wind, and the five aggregates of form, feeling, thought, action, and consciousness, and not a real entity.Because practitioners can thoroughly see the truth, they will no longer be fascinated by these illusions to develop seven emotions and five desires, and will no longer be confused and confused. Therefore, they will be able to completely free themselves from all kinds of afflictions in the world.So on the surface, monks seem to be very ruthless, and they can let go of everything in the world, including their family affection for their parents, and they will not be easily moved by seemingly beautiful love and all material things.In fact, this is not ruthless, but rational, but has the power of concentration and wisdom, and can really work hard without being disturbed by the outside world.Those who are monks and cultivators are truly the most sensible and sincere people in the universe.The so-called affection in the world is actually just false affection and false affection, and it is just a false love that is temporarily born in the selfish ego. Therefore, it is said that the human heart is impermanent and will change all the time, and it will change because it is not true affection.Including children to their parents, and even parents to children, which is called the greatest family relationship in the world, is also true. Unless they are sages and sages who have cultivated in previous lives, otherwise the so-called love of ordinary people is actually not separated from selfishness, so it is not true love.Just as parents love their children, they often hope that their children will become dragons, their daughters will become phoenixes, and even what kind of people they want their children to become. Isn’t all these hopes just showing their inner selfish desires?And those who are monks and cultivators, according to the Buddha's teachings, only use sincerity and sincerity, a great love that is equal and unchanging for all sentient beings. The other party instead of satisfying the self's hope, this kind of love is completely eternal, and this is what can be called a truly affectionate and righteous person.