Three ways to resolve disputes
Three ways to resolve disputes
Generally, in the world, the way to resolve disputes is not to compete with one another, the strong to eat, or to achieve coordination between the two parties of interest, that is, to make a balanced distribution of interests. This is a common practice, but is there any way to do this? Is the dispute really resolved?On the surface, it can be solved temporarily, but in the heart there will always be people who are not satisfied.The method of resolving disputes in Buddhism, on the surface, seems to be the exact opposite of the world, but in fact it can really achieve a fundamental solution.For example, people in the world want money, that is, they try their best to get money from others, but Buddhism teaches us that if we want money, we must give up the money first. must not.The way to resolve disputes is just the opposite. To really solve the problem from the root, you must "accept" it at the moment, completely willing to accept all the status quo of the other party from your heart, instead of continuing to fight against the other party or trying to change the other party. The method is very good. When you seem to be a weak person, fully accept all the states of the other party, and no longer oppose it, you can touch the conscience and conscience of the other party, and the other party will gradually reflect on your attitude. Automatically change it to cooperate with you, and finally both parties can enter a state of harmony and no contention, so the relationship will be more harmonious. This is the natural effect of convincing people with morality.
So what's the point?As the saying goes, people respect me one foot, and I respect others ten feet. Everyone has a conscience and conscience. Once this inner part is touched, a natural reaction force will respond to you. The reason is that simple.Modern people are generally restless, and they are eager to use violence to control violence at every turn. They argue with reason. A magnetic field like this will only arouse greater negative energy on the other side. After this kind of competition between you and me, the three poisons on both sides Anxiety will inevitably intensify, and the final result can be imagined, and both parties will be lost and both will perish.Even if there is a side that can win for the time being on the surface, it has already been severely damaged, winning face, but losing.
Why does Buddhism teach us to let instead of teach us to fight?In the eyes of a Buddha, seeing all people as future Buddhas and seeing all sentient beings as one body with oneself is also the truth, so naturally there is only love and tolerance for sentient beings from the heart, and there is absolutely no dissatisfaction at all.All sentient beings are just because they are lost for a while, so they don't understand the truth, so they will fight with you to the death or the death. In fact, it is you who will die in the end, because the entire universe is one self. , the various differences in appearance are just an illusion, the essence of which is the same root, this principle is very deep, and it is not easy for ordinary people to understand, but this is the truth. Buddha as early as two thousand years ago, through deep meditation He has already witnessed it in person, so He will show us by example and teaching to awaken our understanding, specifically instructing us to do the right thing and live the right life, and stop hurting each other, because to do so is to hurt ourselves.
If you can’t understand these truths for a while, or you can’t accept the current situation of the other person after you understand it, then it means that your self-practice obstacle is still very serious, you have to calm yourself down first, and after you calm down, you will naturally feel it. There is a way.You always have to look back on yourself to find a solution, instead of directly asking for concessions from the other party.So how do you calm yourself down?Looking at each person's roots and predestined relationship, the easiest way is to recite the Buddha. Reciting the Buddha relies on the blessing of the Buddha's power, so that your heart can be settled quickly.If you have no religious beliefs, you can also sit and observe your breathing and the ups and downs of your thoughts, then don't get involved in the content of your thoughts, just be a bystander. If you keep doing this, you will notice that there is a person behind our thoughts who can watch. Awareness, that awareness is the inherent Buddha nature of each of us. When you continue to strengthen this Buddha nature and focus on it, the delusional thoughts in your mind will naturally decrease, and then you will If you can enter the Buddha-nature and activate his energy, at that moment, many inspirations will naturally emerge in your heart to help you solve all problems.There are many great creations and wisdom in this world that come from the inherent Buddha nature of everyone. Only those who know how to activate this treasure can obtain true wisdom, and then operate all things in the world without any disadvantages.
So what's the point?As the saying goes, people respect me one foot, and I respect others ten feet. Everyone has a conscience and conscience. Once this inner part is touched, a natural reaction force will respond to you. The reason is that simple.Modern people are generally restless, and they are eager to use violence to control violence at every turn. They argue with reason. A magnetic field like this will only arouse greater negative energy on the other side. After this kind of competition between you and me, the three poisons on both sides Anxiety will inevitably intensify, and the final result can be imagined, and both parties will be lost and both will perish.Even if there is a side that can win for the time being on the surface, it has already been severely damaged, winning face, but losing.
Why does Buddhism teach us to let instead of teach us to fight?In the eyes of a Buddha, seeing all people as future Buddhas and seeing all sentient beings as one body with oneself is also the truth, so naturally there is only love and tolerance for sentient beings from the heart, and there is absolutely no dissatisfaction at all.All sentient beings are just because they are lost for a while, so they don't understand the truth, so they will fight with you to the death or the death. In fact, it is you who will die in the end, because the entire universe is one self. , the various differences in appearance are just an illusion, the essence of which is the same root, this principle is very deep, and it is not easy for ordinary people to understand, but this is the truth. Buddha as early as two thousand years ago, through deep meditation He has already witnessed it in person, so He will show us by example and teaching to awaken our understanding, specifically instructing us to do the right thing and live the right life, and stop hurting each other, because to do so is to hurt ourselves.
If you can’t understand these truths for a while, or you can’t accept the current situation of the other person after you understand it, then it means that your self-practice obstacle is still very serious, you have to calm yourself down first, and after you calm down, you will naturally feel it. There is a way.You always have to look back on yourself to find a solution, instead of directly asking for concessions from the other party.So how do you calm yourself down?Looking at each person's roots and predestined relationship, the easiest way is to recite the Buddha. Reciting the Buddha relies on the blessing of the Buddha's power, so that your heart can be settled quickly.If you have no religious beliefs, you can also sit and observe your breathing and the ups and downs of your thoughts, then don't get involved in the content of your thoughts, just be a bystander. If you keep doing this, you will notice that there is a person behind our thoughts who can watch. Awareness, that awareness is the inherent Buddha nature of each of us. When you continue to strengthen this Buddha nature and focus on it, the delusional thoughts in your mind will naturally decrease, and then you will If you can enter the Buddha-nature and activate his energy, at that moment, many inspirations will naturally emerge in your heart to help you solve all problems.There are many great creations and wisdom in this world that come from the inherent Buddha nature of everyone. Only those who know how to activate this treasure can obtain true wisdom, and then operate all things in the world without any disadvantages.