Women who are kind-hearted or monks are best to follow the bhikshuni master to have their ordination, so as to be in accordance with the law, and at the same time, this is also a very important reason to protect the purity of their mind and body.At the end of the Dharma period, the phenomena predicted in the Buddhist scriptures appear one by one. It is very common for men and women to live together in monasteries and dojos. Even when I became a monk, I didn’t know that this was not the Dharma. That’s why I followed a monk to shave. Fortunately, The relationship between master and apprentice is also very short, and within half a year, he left his permanent residence to get close to Shigong and study the Fa.After more than ten years in Buddhism, most of them studied in female sangha groups or practiced alone. Occasionally, when they were close to Buddhist monks, they were all elders and great virtues, such as eminent monks of Jingzong.^上net^underKong Lao monk, Po Lam Chan Monastery, Lantau Island, Hong Kong^上Holy^underAn old monk, Taiwan Zhengjue Jingshe^上fruit^underClear lawyer.The Sangha under the abbot of the Qing monk is a dojo where men learn precepts and recite Buddhahood, and no women live together.Although Baolin Temple is called the jungle where men and women live together, the precepts are very strict. Men and women do not share morning and evening classes. It seemed that there were only two sanghas next to each other, and there was no feeling that men and women lived together.

Although I have rarely interacted with monks since I became a monk, I have been suffering from this issue for a long time. On the one hand, the reasons for the review may be that my character is relatively independent and not submissive enough, and on the other hand, I am not a real person. Understand the psychological state of men, so that misunderstandings are more likely to occur in getting along with men.Originally, it was a fate of mutual respect and admiration, or even a relationship like a very good relationship with each other, but I don't know how to do it, that is, one day, just suddenly, the attitude of the men towards me will be very big. The transformation also seems to hide a deep misunderstanding. This kind of impermanence always leaves me at a loss, and I feel very aggrieved, and even my heart has been seriously hurt because of this, especially with the fate of the past. A good person can make me miserable for a while, but it’s not because of my emotional attachments. In the nearly XNUMX years of studying Buddhism and even becoming a monk, I’m glad that I have never really treated men like the worldly people. Love, let alone any deeper desire to live with and practice with him, but I have met a few monks who are more compatible than other ordinary people, but not at all for the male laymen. Although it can be regarded as some admiration, and they are also very close to each other, it is only limited to mutual appreciation and care and support on the Tao. There are actually very few opportunities to meet and interact with each other, and there has never been a chance to be alone. Without the karma of the Dao mind, it is impossible to believe that the karma between them is so corresponding.I once heard that there was a certain wealthy female lay Buddhist who tried every means to entangle a bhikkhu and marry her. As a result, the monk who took off his cassock soon no longer had the charm of the past when he was a master. Later, this Dharma protector Madam changed her mind first!Think about it, this kind of situation, for this bhikkhu who reverts his lust to worldliness, how embarrassing it is!

Therefore, as long as you can see clearly what the feelings of people in the world are, you will naturally not fall into this beautiful and terrifying trap. What people in the world crave is just the false outer packaging. Once the packaging is changed, the inner greed Love will change with it, and what in this world will never change?The answer is definitely not.Only when we truly love each other and achieve mutual success together on the path, can our relationship be eternal and unchanged, and can we be pure and pure.What's more, if I have been studying scriptures and teaching for many years, I can be regarded as a person who understands the principle of cause and effect. How can I be so stupid that I want to harm others and myself, and pull others into the fire pit of three smears together?Unless you are drunk and take hallucinogenic drugs, you will be confused for a while.But that being said, ordinary people are still ordinary people after all. No matter how thoroughly they understand these principles, when ordinary people encounter various trials from their enemies in the past, they will inevitably still have heart-wrenching thoughts, and experience the struggle between heaven and man. In order to return to peace in the heart, it is necessary to face the test again and again and constantly reflect on the correction, and gradually enhance the immunity and awareness of oneself, so that in all favorable and adverse fates, one can meet on the Dao and become one. The splendid dharma condition on the spiritual path.

Over the years, after several similar setbacks and tests, now I finally understand more and know how to reflect on myself. Usually, we should stand on the other side's position and consider psychological and even physical considerations and protect our thoughts. We can't just think about it. As long as you don’t have any malice or bad intentions, you can do whatever you want, and it may be easy to mishandle the conversation. If you intentionally or unintentionally cause misunderstanding or unhappiness of others, or even cause people’s thoughts and troubles to arise, It should only be blamed on the consequences of his own lack of wisdom.Moreover, before the fruition has not been achieved and the ability to sit still like Liu Xiahui, it is best to keep a certain distance between men and women. As the old monk Guangqin said, even if they live to a hundred years old, They should also keep a distance of XNUMX paces from each other, especially if they live and practice together, so as to completely avoid unwittingly planting impure karma.

Thinking that men and women must get along day and night, work together from time to time, and take care of each other in practice, even if there is no emotional attachment, it is impossible to guarantee that there will be no physical reaction, unless you look too safe!This is why the Buddha made precepts so that monks and nuns could not live together.Especially between men and women, there are great innate differences in both psychological and physical aspects. It is inevitable that there will be many misunderstandings between the two parties. It is necessary to maintain a considerable distance and respect. As the saying goes, even if a husband and wife want to have a good relationship for a hundred years, they must be respectful to each other, not to mention that people who are not close to each other in general are less tolerant of each other. How can they be in all aspects? No conflict?

Fortunately, a few years ago, after I had the opportunity to rely on the monk Qing to further study the precepts for becoming a monk, I gradually became more aware of the importance of mutual protection between men and women, and the most effective way to protect the ring is to keep a distance. They should not be too intimate with each other, so as not to develop love or clinging to possession over time.Nowadays, it is not difficult to see dojos where many men and women live together at home and abroad. It is not necessarily that they cannot keep the precepts and practice the Dao, but it is definitely a great bodhisattva with very strong roots. Thoughts must be kept in check. Ordinary ordinary people, even if they dare not commit crimes that violate the fundamental precepts in their actions, unknowingly develop a mind of possessive attachment, or the faults of various actions that attract public ridicule. It is almost inevitable. I personally can only admire and congratulate these people who live together with men and women. I have no intention of commenting. I just feel that I still have to tell the truth, so that everyone can have the opportunity to communicate with each other. Encourage to increase.

In addition, if you observe carefully, in today's dojos where men and women live together, the roles of women are almost always errand deacons who do some internal care and training. There are indeed very few nuns who have the opportunity to specialize in listening to the Dharma, even preaching the Dharma and benefiting life. Why is this so?Can't women have the heart and ability of Taoism?Of course not. In Taiwan, the achievements of many elder sisters of nuns are enough to make many men unmatched, and the Buddhist scriptures clearly tell us that everyone has an equal and perfect Buddha-nature, and enlightenment and becoming a Buddha do not depend on A strong physique, strong physical strength... depends on understanding and motivation. As long as you really have the heart, the "Huayan Sutra" says: "All dharmas are only the mind." Realm, can create all dharma realms.Men can create, and women can also create, and the Dharma Realm created is not limited by high or low, it is entirely dependent on one's understanding, mental strength, and will.Therefore, as a woman, I am more obliged to encourage the nuns to be self-reliant and self-reliant, to be more able to undertake the family business of the Tathagata, and through my diligent practice, to turn women into men as soon as possible, and to defile the women. The heavy karma body has been transformed, and I will do my part, and I will take care of the Tathagata's family business according to the circumstances, so as to obtain self-benefiting and altruistic achievements as soon as possible.

However, I encourage nuns to be self-reliant and self-improvement, not because they want to compete and oppose the male crowd, it is undoubtedly causing trouble for themselves, and it also goes against the Buddha's original intention of imparting compassion and equality to all sentient beings.So once, there was a nun who I personally admired and admired very much in the religious circles. At first, she also had good intentions to protect me and came forward to help me deal with a misunderstanding with a monk. The proportion of the interaction between men and women failed to reach a consensus for a while and failed to develop a deeper dharma relationship.I believe that the four groups of disciples are originally a family, and they should respect each other, help each other and cooperate with each other in order to grow each other. Although the interaction between the two parties really needs to be improved and improved together, they should not adopt an extreme method of complete separation or opposition to achieve self-protection. the goal of.I think women's self-reliance, self-reliance, and status should be made by working hard on their self-concepts, first removing the habit and habit of relying on men to survive in their women's state, and being a truly capable of helping men, and even also A practice partner who can achieve mutual success with men, can be independent and maintain a good cooperative relationship with men, this will be of great help to both parties and to Buddhism.my mentor^上fruit^underThe Qing lawyer and his old man have repeatedly advised me to be a big heart to be an inner guardian, and have the opportunity to set up a nun and monk group that leads people to practice with precepts, so that the precepts of the Buddhist system can be passed on forever, and I can get close to the old man. At that time, I never felt that he had any intention of disrespecting the status of women, but he always thought about the overall situation, and always had to persuade his disciples to follow the natural laws of ethics and morality. A way of getting along with each other and respecting each other.Besides, if people are too close and familiar with each other, they will inevitably lose their sense of proportion or become emotional, and it is easy to deviate from the path. This is a fact that is not difficult to understand. Therefore, nuns who are real men should really learn to be independent. First of all, it is necessary to avoid male and female monks living and cultivating together, and even to completely cut off the mentality of relying on men for survival. Only then can the unequal relationship created by both men and women, which is male superiority and female inferiority, can be truly corrected, and then reach Buddhahood. The equality of the Dharma Realm that the Bodhisattva has attested to, exists only in one body, and there is no difference between men and women.

You must know that when our teacher, Buddha Shakyamuni, was promoting the Dharma in India, one of the main points of his teaching was to advocate equality. The first thing was to get rid of the very serious four-caste caste system in India at that time. In order to achieve this goal, we also ordered the The barber (slave) Upali shaved before the royal family and became a senior brother, and then made the royal nobles who were the bosses to worship the slave, and used this to train the disciples. This scene is really fierce. Medicine!What is the purpose?It is to actively awaken the equal Buddha-nature inherent in all of us, to respect each other, and to achieve the true merits of everyone!Therefore, if men and women want to live in peace, there is still a lot to learn from both sides. Both behavior and concept must be reformed, and it must be based on the standard of the equality law of reality rather than the conventional rule of men being superior to women. Concepts, in this way, can truly correspond to the nature of the law and the nature of the heart, and truly make people convince them and enter the realm of saints who convince people with virtue. Otherwise, the so-called traditional standard of male superiority in modern times is not the same as in ancient times. Is the moral convention that women are superior to men in the maternal society of the times contradictory?